The April 2020 newsletter centered on the theme :
Suppose 'everything' gets a reset, would we then choose to do the same thing all over again and kind of rebuild the same world ?
In other words .... would we go back to the way things were ?
In all likelihood, with all the experience and wisdom gained, the answer for many is very different now than it was two years ago.
This is growth!
This is transformation!
And we very much welcome people who have a totally new vision and ideas for a new world !
But before we can really start building a new world, we will have to detach ourselves from the world as it is now and we will have to consciously detach ourselves from the patterns we have made our own in this world.
Until we change our unconscious patterns, we will unconsciously and unintentionally shape the new world in the same way.
This is an intense and internal process ... we all have huge amounts of anchors in "the old world" and until we are aware of them, we are not free to move in a new direction without recreating the existing reality.
Imagine if we lived every moment 100% in the "now," not only would we no longer need memories, our memories would no longer hinder us from truly being who we essentially are.
If we can be 100% in the now, then neither the past nor the future matters ... we then live entirely on the basis of synchronicity.
The only limitation to making a Quantum Shift to a completely different reality is our tendency to hold on to the reality as we know it, as we remember it and thus making a connection to our past and not being in the now.
Right now, therefore, our freedom and joy to take completely new paths are still partly limited by a strong attachment to our past and therefore the past determines and repeats itself in the future.
In this newsletter we want to shine some light on a specific aspect that may become very relevant in the coming year when it comes to letting go of the past, namely .... forgiveness.
A theme that could become very large in scope and depth.
Letting go of the insistence that the past should have been different
One description I've read for forgiveness is "Letting go of the insistence that the past should have been different."
It is ending an inner struggle over a reality as it has been experienced.
Sometimes we hear or say:
"I just don't understand how they could be like that!" or
"How could they do this to me/us?" or
"They need to apologize first before I/we can move on."
"I want to have justice or see retribution first before I ..."
After an event or series of events in which our integrity has been violated, the primary reaction will come in the form of anger and sadness.
This is a natural mechanism to cleanse our system of negative energies. These negative energies seek a way out. This is necessary.
Sometimes we may become stuck in this anger when something bad has happened to us or when we feel we have been wronged.
To forgive is to let go of what we are angry or sad about, to stop holding on to the resentment we hold toward others we hold responsible.
It can even be resentment that we direct at ourselves when we ourselves are "the responsible one.
Remaining stuck in anger does immense damage to us in the long run and our feelings of hurt and disappointment increase as time passes.
It ultimately solves nothing. Nothing changes about what happened in the past; instead everything changes in our lives today.
And even though we know this, sometimes it still feels justified to remain angry or resentful, even if it keeps us away from our own health and happiness.
Often we hold on to anger, hurt and frustration until the other person says "sorry" - if that ever (sincerely) happens.
For this reason, we cannot let the happiness for the rest of our lives depend on the other person's excuses.
Forgiveness is not something we offer others; it is a gift we give ourselves!
It is about letting go of our pain and the condition of first getting our right.
Once we allow ourselves this, we can begin to move on with our lives - regardless of whether we ever receive an apology or compensation.
Although forgiveness is sometimes perceived as condoning something that cannot be condoned, the opposite is true.
Forgiving does not mean that there are no consequences for the one (even if that is us) who is forgiven.
Forgiveness is not an approval of what happened.
Forgiveness is not a substitute for justice.
Forgiveness is not a waiver of responsibility or liability.
Forgiveness is about healing our own emotional wounds and releasing emotional anchors to the past. It is detached from the other, or rather, we detach ourselves from the other.
In essence, we detach ourselves from a timeline.
This process is about taking responsibility for ourselves and at the same time putting the responsibility that is not ours where it belongs.
We are responsible for our own hearts, our own well-being, our own health and our own actions; others are still and always responsible for their actions.
At its core, then, forgiveness is about taking back the power we have given away through our wounds to those who inflicted them.
Therefore, forgiveness is not something we do for another, but for ourselves.
But sometimes the anger and resentment is so great that it seems impossible.
At that stage it may not be possible to forgive and this energy of anger must first be released from the system. Do not condemn this.
Simply stating the intention to someday explore the possibility of forgiveness is enough to start the process of healing and move it in a productive direction.
Forgiveness is a conscious decision to reframe an event or person, to put it into a different perspective for ourselves, so that we no longer have to live with the pain in our memory and the meaning it holds for us.
Note ... the purpose of forgiveness is not to forget (and certainly not to deny) what happened!
It is a choice to create a new, more positive perception and a new way of remembering something you learned through pain or mistakes. Initially, feelings about the situation may become more neutral and even eventually lead to positive perceptions.
The moment when we realize that our true power lies not in harboring resentment toward a point in the old time(line), but in letting go of the anchors by forgiving ourselves and others, is the moment when we bring ourselves back into the now and free ourselves to enter a new reality!
To forgive is to set ourselves free ...
Without forgiveness, we remain tethered to the person who harmed us.
We are bound with chains of bitterness, tied together, trapped.
Until we can forgive the person who harmed us, they will hold the keys to our hapiness.
They will be our jailor.
- Desmond Tutu -
The subject of forgiveness is complex and has many layers and perspectives .
We all have our own way and timing to address this kind of topic.
This newsletter gives one perspective and at the same time there are many other valuable perspectives !
Perhaps this newsletter will inspire you to forgive yourself or some one else the things that happened in the past.
Maybe this newsletter isn't even so much about you, but will shed some light on a process involving another person trying to forgive themselves and you can offer a neutral listening ear.
Forgiveness is certainly not an easy process and we hope that as many lightworkers as possible are prepared for the task ahead for the healing processes of many people.
We hope that this newsletter may inspire you in the development of your own unique perspective.
So that from the core you may carry your unique Light and shine it into the world.
We wish everyone much love and wisdom
and let us build bridges
from one side to the other
let us connect the banks
and together watch, on the middle of the bridge
at the waters as the flow of life
Love each other and hold each other close in the coming months!
Hug each other and be there for each other.
For now, lots of love !!!
And see you soon, in the flesh, at one of the online events and on this online community Human-ET One!
Jacqueline and Philip
Source : www.ethealing.nl Newsletter Feb 2022